Smile or Frown - What are you gonna choose?
They say u need solitude to meet urself or to find time for urself...to evolve yourself....to introspect...to look back.....but i take ur pardon to disagree.
It's not always true....not atleast with me.....i think you just need a lil pause...a tiny break from your otherwise mad schedule -"THE MARATHON OF OUR LIVES".....to bend and think about the unforseen path we have been running on day in and out. I believe u can do it...even in the deafening sound of a wedding band.
It happned to be nothing different today....i went for shopping after working monotonously for last 4 jam-packed weeks. I find a sense of relief...a stress buster..in shopping......some may say it is an attribute often attached to chicks...let it be...i have no qualms about it. Truth is, we have to find ways out to compose ourselves from the agony of life adulterated with stress.. tention.. fatigues... dissatisfaction... frustations... irritations ...so on and so forth.
One place where i get chance to meet myself is the washroom room.....and couple of my friends would nod in agreement i bet...we are truly ourselves for those 10-15 minutes......feeling releaved after coming out....not all us might have paid any heed to it
To continue, I was standing in Queue (u might be thinking which Q m i talking about - i am not surprised either...we stand in Q literally for everything from a railway station ticket....to filling college fees.......to paying bills for electricity......or paying for the apparels you have selected)...i was standing in Q for the last one...
and it was a never ending q with dozen people standing in front of me with bag full of garments as if the mall is going out of business today or this is the last time they can buy clothes in their life term.....thankfully i got some time to fall in the abyss of my thougts...only to get distracted by some high pitch altercation......two ladies were arguing with each other...one of the lady just broke the line and came in front to get her item billed as she just had 1 apparel to buy....( i am guessing she got the news of sellout beforehand and this was her second visit)...the ladies did not know each other...they had nothing against each other....just the sheer dis-satisafaction...or the tentions at work place or everday life triggered by some negative vibes, rattled their temperament.......the root of the problem lies in fact - when we walk out of office....we take work along with us...and all unnecessary agonies associated.
Work has occupied us all from head to toe...the complications have pinned down the individual within us to an extent that "We are not left alone to be with ourselves even when left alone".
The mask we wear at work place often becomes our face.
We are all transforming into machines steadily.....look at our erratic sleeping patterns. Have you ever observed....what is the 2nd question we ask a person whom we want to know about? 1st one is obvious..."what is your name" and second one follows "So, What do you do?" which unprecedentedly matches our query about any machine - "what does it do"? People connect/recognize you with the job you do....the way they deal machines with.
What are we up to?
What are we figting for?
What do we want to achieve?
What do we want to prove?
Whom are we competing with? ourselves? probably yes....probably No...
But we all are making it complicated trying to achieve something undefined...unexisting....like infinity. We have forgotten being ourselves......life has virtually become a battle where we are continously figting with our inhibitions.....our fanatasies...our self beliefs...our burdens...our targets...our apprehentions. Where has all the happiness gone????.....where have those smiling faces vanished?? How many times do we smile in a day? from within - not to count the the poses we make like Jim Carrey to sell something to the client..trying to fool him not even sparing ourselves in the process...we know we are faking it...no surprises...all do... including clients.
Truly said...a smile can win a billion hearts.....it can make someone's day..it can wash off the tears...it can kiss away the pain. "Tough times donot last longer, tough people do".Smile specially when you are going through rough patch. Irony is we forget to laugh and smile when we need it the most. Trust me it takes lesser effort to "smile" than "frown". Neverthless we tend to choose frown unanimously. We try to find that one rotten apple in a basket of hundred dazzling ones.
"We as a society have somehow somewhere lost it"
We prefer to be critics than the appraisers. If you dip in to think for a second to find an anwwer for"WHY" - I bet u will have no justification than blaming circumstances. I truly appreciate and sort of agree with the brilliant Lyrics of upcoming movie "Ishqia" - "Dil to bacha hai ji..Thoda kacha hai ji" (Heart is an infant..it's bit immature) - it learns what you teach it...it does what you foster it do.
The need of the hour is to re-kindle our self-awareness from "objects" to "beings". All we need is to push the boundaries we confined ourselves in and enjoy the freefall in unscathed, untarnished aura of thoughts and feelings.
Saari umar hum mar mar ke jiliye....ik pal to ab hume jine do...jine do!!
~Varun
Sunday, January 24, 2010
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well written Varun... I so wish that my first comments were cheerful and inspiring and I am still thinkng if its good to pen down my thoughts...
ReplyDeletewritting wise.. you have done a very good job... no doubts about it at all... you have always been good at it...
It was a very well observed and thoughtful post too...
But I wonder why do we always get so attracted towards the negative vibes anyways... there is negative and positive everywhere in everyone... why does always negative manage to win over in our observations.... why you couldnt see a mother standing in the queue cearsing her child... or a girl talking to her boyfriend on her phone or a wife smiling within herself by looking at the surprise gift she is about to buy for her husband...
If we keep telling ourselves we have lost it!! we will loose it one day... avoiding is the best way of destroying.. avoid all the negative around you... be positive and your aura should be so strong that looking at your smile the people with negative auro struggle to retain it...
There is not much theoritical difference between telling one... Don't frown... Don't frown... don't feel bad.. you are not sad... you will not fail...you are not old.... thn saying... keep smiling... feel good.... be happy... you will succeed...you are young and vibrant. but as you can sense already it has a big pshycological difference in how our uconcious mind reacts to words...
Feel good.. find good... and we are gaining things (as i try to not write... we are not lossing anything.. )
I still remember the two prashno ki kahani... and many such witty writtings you had written...
When I know that you can genuinely make people smile.. why do you limit yourself to the job of just wipping their tears :)
good luck.. boy....
looking forward to your next writting...
Love
Pooja xx
Hey!
ReplyDeleteSup Bro? Hows it goin?
Here i see one more shoot from your arsenal aimed to oppugn the same chord of human psyche which you tried to pluck even in your previous posts err ... "Self Experienced and Perceived Anecdotes".
But this time I beg to differ from your attempt of lambasting V THE IT FOLKS for adopting a life style which is for sure not envied by elder section of society. V All stays away from home to earn "too still few" bucks and though knowing the fact that we will be spending maximum hours of our life within a 6*6 cube than with family. Yes V do follow a living regime which was never anticipated by our parents when they dreamed of their child being a IT Engg Yes V do accept erratic work shift Yes V do have traits of being insomniac N V do torture our body with enough of booze and not so enough of doze :) but that does not mean V have turned ourselves into some Programmed Device who's every action is not only repetitive but very well envisaged before hand in all the docs.
We do have different ways to pamper and prepare our selves for every next morning if for some its shopping spree then for some its weekend full day nap for some its GF bash then for rest its nothing but the cash which keeps the wheel rolling.
At the end of the day its not some one else but V ourselves are the architecture of this way of living, many may not be happy with their own design but that is some thing which they have to re-think to orchestrate a routine where they have separates room for personal as well as professional commitments.
I can not comment about others from my own fraternity but Yes i do Njoy being the part of this digital world where i am thousand of miles away yet near to my family( Web Cam),can buy a SUV to pamper my own fixation can throw boozing bash for my friends to relish my get together Can call get X number of friend to help me at 2 AM ( U are one among those),N above of all i have a machine which can KILL THE TIME.
So dude let the two mask stay on one face and use both to explore each side of the coin and trust me Feel Gud Find good does work ..give it a try.
Cheers
Sachin
Thanks Pooji and Sachin for such a good and detailed feedback.....watch out next!!
ReplyDeleteWhen i said "Have we lost it" - i am just trying to Evaluate....find answers than just lamblasting like a critic....No doubt we become critical when we feel so strongly...but i as usual have an urge and desire to think positively...be optmistic and set the center stage to walk striaght to the gamoth of opportunitie in front of us to make our every secind of futur count...
Neverthless thanks again and i assure you to give you a more delightful.... a more forwards looking.....a more optimistic blog....stay tuned guys!!
Golu,
ReplyDeleteread ur posts .. gud going .. ur writing skills & thoughts have really improve from those infy years i must say ..
waiting to read something more interesting.. may b something funny .. with the golu touch in it ..
abe kuch shairy likh na sale .. itna time ho gaya ..
some pun ...some sarcasm .. :):)
hahahaha...theek ha Baja...if u say so....will attempt witing hilarious one...thats gonna be y nexy mission for writing.....stay tune...was kind of busy for lst couple of weeks....gonna flex my writing muscles soon...Cheers!!
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